Great
You just got into a fight with a friend over a dumb eraser she thinks you stole. What do you do? First take at least 5 minutes to cool down and think of what you are going to say. You should say sorry even if you didn't start the fight, it is just a comforting word to start out talking. Tell her the truth and say that you didn't steal the eraser and you feel sad that she doesn't believe you. Tell that you two still want to be friends and an eraser shouldn't come between you two of making that happen. This should send a message to your friend that it was dumb to fight and you two should still be friends.
Caught Between the Two
Oh no! Your two friends Jen and Lisa are at it again fighting about something. Then suddenly they stomp off in different directions. That afternoon you get a phone call from Lisa and she starts talking about all the bad things Jen did and how bad Jen is. Later that afternoon you get a call from Jen and she too starts talking about how bad Lisa is. This is so frustrating, what do you do?
First of all when ever some is talking behind some one else's back and you don't like the things your hearing, tell them that you feel offended. Tell them that it is really mean and cruel to say those things. Then just walk away.
But if your are on the phone, tell them the same thing and say you have to go. If she says your mean and cruel don't believe her because you are doing the right thing. When two friends are being mean to each other, tell them personally that you don't like them fighting and it makes you feel uncomfortable.
As a last resort of getting away from the frustration, tell them that you need to take a break from this friendship and have to think it over. Taking a break from a friendship can be hard but it lets you have time to think about what you are going to do next. This doesn't mean that you have to be mean to them and ignore them, it just means that you won't come over to each others houses until you feel ready. You will not talk to each other as much but you can say hi to her in the hallways and still be kind to her.
Remember say how your feeling about these situations and trust yourself for making the right decision.
Think to yourself
What do you look for in a friend? Write them down and when ever you are having friend troubles or looking for a pal look at what you wrote down to help you to decide.
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